Skype with Holland 1/3/10

Bhagavan: Nice to see you Laura.

Laura: Nice to see you too. I am very happy. The first question:

My husband insults me and I want to experience the pain. But instead I insult him even more. I am afraid the behavior and this anger will come back to me manifold. How do I receive grace to experience the pain instead of reacting violently? You told my husband and me we should respect each other and that this is up to us but it is getting worse and it seems impossible. I act violently Bhagavan, please bless us;  to be honest I don’t want to change. Something in me does not want to give up the fight with him. Why do I want this instead of happiness?

Bhagavan: You have got to apply the systematic fashion. There are deeper reasons for this. I will not go into that. I would like to go to the solution. So like Onno told a story, I will also tell a little story. So this evening, some four hours earlier I met a local Indian villager, very uneducated, who comes for our classes. This woman told me this evening that she used to have a lot of fights with her husband and life was becoming really terrible. And then she thought, well I seem to have so much fear for this man. Why is this? And she could not get on to that. So, a week ago she lost the keys to her home. The husband had gone out somewhere and she could not enter the house and she was terrified of the thought telling her husband because he would immediately beat her up. So she brought some neighbor who broke open the lock and kept the lock in the neighbor’s house. And then she began to wonder what is happening. Why are all this problems? Every time I seem to get into some trouble and then this man is scolding me or beating me. Why is this happening? Then she applied the teaching: what is happening inside produces events outside. And then she questions what is happening inside and then she discovered there is tremendous fear of him. And this fear was constantly creating the situations where the husband was provoked and was behaving rudely to her. This image was inside her. And then she thought, I have fear. I just have fear and this seems to invoke this behavior in him. So the moment the husband came she said: Look, I lost the keys. I broke open the lock and of sheer fear of you I hid the lock in the neighbor’s house. The husband strangely laughed and gave her a hug. And he said: It is fine. So it became very very clear to her that she was invoking that kind of behavior. With this single incident she claims that she completely lost fear of her husband and for the last one week they have had the best of times of their lives. This happened to one who has had no education nor great understanding but the very simple understanding of the teaching and very systematically applied. So you have got to realize the fact that you are producing this image. You are provoking to the other and the other is provoking you. But we don’t have to worry about the other, we can start with ourselves. You do it if you realize there is profit there. Like a good businessman.

If you do it you start to gain. This lady has no more problems with her husband, at least for the last one week and she is in great joy and all things are very well for her. So, she realized there is much to be gained there and she is constantly aware of any fear if it erupts and the moment she is aware the fear disappears and there seems to be no problem at all. So what you have to do is, you have to understand, this is called awaken up intelligence, which we teach in level 2, that you are creating these things. Suppose you want to approach a lion or a tiger in a zoo. How do you want to do that? You turn your back to the tiger or the lion. I know families in India and also in western countries, they are going to play with the lions and the tigers. Not the ones they brought up but simply straight away with the lions and the tigers. How do these people do? They have for some reasons completely lost fear for these animals and when you lose fear for the animal, the animal never explodes. Ramana Maharshi in India, you must have heard of him, he used to be touching leopards and sometimes even tigers they say and he would be with cobra’s and snakes. Nobody ever harmed him. But he used to keep people in a distance of 15 feet from him. When they would come across the 15 feet barrier then the animal would strike. So all people are asked to keep distance if they had fear. Similarly we are producing all these things. So you could take a quick look at yourself and see the correlation. What happened inside you, before the other person was provoked brought as  misbehavior and you see a lot of profit there. It does not require any effort at all. You can see if it is of any use to you. It is producing a loss or a gain. If you can clearly see there is nothing to gain, then drop it. If you see there is something to gain then cling to it. You have to see it in terms of loss and gain. If you see that like this village woman then it is very very easy. You are wasting a lot of time. You are struggling and find it very difficult. In fact it is not so. Go home and set things right. If you can see profit and loss it is done. And I help you and bless you; write next time. That’s the answer to the first question, we move to the next question.

Well, the next question Bhagavan is…

Someone asks: I do the 10-20 minutes sadhana on regular basis, the 10 minutes to grow and 20 to transform, on regular basis, but somehow it looks like the growth has slowed down, or I notice it less than before. Do you have any suggestions on how to keep growing and noticing it? I heard something in another Skype-session about 49 minutes practice for every day. Can you tell about that? Should we do another practice or should we stay to the 10-20 minutes sadhana?

Bhagavan: If any sadhana goes to be painful, is not joyous enough or not interesting, and you do not notice any growth after some time, you must take a break from the sadhana. It could be a 10 day, it could be a 14 or 21 day break, and then you should again go back to it. So what’s happening is, sometimes when you do the sadhana wrongly then you do not make any progress and it becomes painful. Any sadhana which is not joyous should be stopped. 

Sadhana must be a joy. A painful sadhana is not going to help you, it can in fact cause problems to you. You must stop it immediately, and then take it up after probably 7 days or 14 days again you should do it again in multiples of 7; so 7, 14, 21, 28, 35, 42, you do it like that. Take breaks and restart. Then maybe it will be very, very different this time. Or it could also be that this kind of sadhana is not suiting you, in which case you must try out some other sadhana. Not all sadhanas suit everybody; try and find out for yourself. That is the answer for the second question.  

Thank you Bhagavan

The next question:

This is someone who asks: When I give blessings I sometimes have very strange physical reactions. Lately my heart beat turned up enormously and it scares me. I also feel so much heat that I sometimes have to go outside to cool down a bit. Is this dangerous? Should I do anything about it? There are other blessing givers who have other big physical reactions when they give blessings. Should they just continue to give blessings? Can it be harmful? Or what should they do?  

Bhagavan: There is no danger at all and you should not stop it. This is an indication that you will be a very very powerful blessing giver. All such people who exhibit such symptoms will become amazingly powerful blessing givers. ….

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Bhagavan: We are getting it back now. So, I’ll repeat the answer. (…repetition…)

 

Your blessings will be powerful or are going to become very, very powerful.

This is very good news indeed that there are such people out there. And there are people in India like this and their deeksha’s are amazingly powerful. So go ahead and give deeksha’s.

L: Okay, thank you, that’s good news. Can we ask one more question?

When I listen to the news I hear about climate changes, the financial crisis, about the wars in the world. I sometimes get very scared. I feel like not wanting to know all the details of such drama in the world, because they make me feel so sad and helpless. Can you tell something about how we should deal with this? Is it good to follow the news carefully, although it makes me worried, or should I do anything with my worries or can I deal with it in another constructive way?

Bhagavan: If you are scared then you should not listen to that news. On the other hand, if it produces concern in you and you feel a sense of helplessness then you must listen to that news. That very concern, that very sense of helplessness is your contribution. If millions of people all over the world feel concern and feel helpless about the situation then the Divine will certainly intervene and act. Such people should not miss out the news. They should listen and even experience suffering, pain and agony at what is going on. And you are the silent prayer, to the Universe or to the Divine or whatever is your concept. And certainly, the prayers of these millions of people will definitely be answered. But on the other hand, if you are going to be scared then the best thing you can do is just switch off the news. That is the answer for the third question.

Laura: Thank you very much.

Bhagavan:  So now shall we move into meditation?